#35: Can feminists be friends with misogynists?

Our 35th prompt comes from NA. They ask:

Do you think it’s possible to identify as feminist and still be friends with someone who’s a misogynist?



Good question. I think this is something you ask yourself earlier on in your journey as a feminist, when it occurs to you that people who are dear to you – your family and friends – don’t share your system of belief (see #3: Musings on Kenyan Feminism(s) #19: Can men be feminists? and #23: Musings on Political Lesbianism for more on feminism). Continue reading “#35: Can feminists be friends with misogynists?”

#23: Musings on Political Lesbianism

Our 23rd prompt comes from A.H. They ask:

What do you think of political lesbianism? (The concept of women refusing heterosexual relations as a form of protest against men and patriarchy)



Welcome, my fellow radical feminist (I hope). I’m glad we get to talk about this here because, after all, a day can’t pass without feminists being accused of just being (ugly) lesbians. Or, without us being told that if we hate men so much, maybe we should stop f***ing them. I’m happy to share with the people who say this that many feminists arrived at that conclusion long before you – not that we are all just ugly lesbians, but that perhaps we should stop f***ing men. Continue reading “#23: Musings on Political Lesbianism”

#19: Can men be feminists?

Our 19th prompt comes from princelySid. He asks:

Are there male feminists? Like you since I found out what it meant to be one, I’ve identified as one but I’ve been told I need to stop using it publicly, there’s no such thing. There’s a bit more to the story but I’d like to know what you think.



This is a question that many within the movement ask themselves. Feminism is a movement that advocates for the social, political and economic equality of the sexes. It is “the radical notion that women are people.” Continue reading “#19: Can men be feminists?”

#3: Musings on Kenyan Feminism(s)

Our third prompt comes from Winnie. She asks:

What does Kenya feminism offline & online look like now after your 10 years of being on the internet?



I first identified as feminist at 15, when I was in Form 3. I always knew that the prescribed role(s) and spaces for women in society were too small for me. They were constricting; suffocating even. I was a problem girl (who has grown into a problem woman) and as soon as I learned of the word feminism, I said: aha! That is exactly what I am – a feminist. A person who holds this radical idea that women are people too, and they deserve to live out their lives in full, as they choose.

It goes without saying that finding radical feminism at age 15 does not bode well for a high school student in Kenya, so I was always in trouble. Continue reading “#3: Musings on Kenyan Feminism(s)”